Since I posted on Saturday I have come on considerably!
Thanks for the pointers. I did copy the id code for the object to get a link at the bottom but the embed template is what I am looking for. I also found doing a general search on the site and forums produced really useful info and I was able to target my questions and get answers rather than reading thru the tons of documents. I have found EZPublish really intimidating in th past but as I am longer in the tooth I am ready to wrestle with it a bit more now.
Scary theme code though - extremely off putting for the non-programming users.....
Oh and I am not sue I understand "Also note that related objects only work through the XML field."