That does look like what I want, thanks! I tried installing it and I see the 'Extended Object Relation' in the list of attributes I can add to a class, but when I add it I seem to be missing some interface as all I can see are the Name, Identifier, and standard 4 checkboxes. There is no 'selection method' or 'default selection node' visible.
I'm running 3.7 and I unpacked it into the extensions folder and added the 2 lines mentioned in the install.txt file:
Totally does the trick. The enhanced object relation is what I'm looking for as well. I might want to tweak it some in the future, but works great for my current needs. Thanks all.